Ritz Kracka

Ritz Kracka

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Why cant I take my own good advice?



Each week on Tuesday, I go to my son’s classroom to hang out with the kids, be another adult in the room (which is appreciated during this age of the 31 to 1 student/teacher ratio), and also to introduce the concept of mindfulness to an amazing group of awareness-starved kids.

Today’s session was especially fun.  We talked about the breath and how the breath is a good tool to bring one back to the present moment.  We talked about Now being the only moment one ever really has and that thinking about the past and the future takes us out of that ever-present Now.  We even got to talking about dreams – consciousness, unconsciousness….we ended up drifting so far out on that one that the teacher jumped in to reel me on back to the topic at hand.  I could have seriously sat there for hours and hours with those kids, they were so inquisitive!

So why is it that, here I am at home, stressed to the gills with a sick kid and a laundry list of work tasks that need to be completed, including my own tax return (not due in two weeks, but I need to make an estimate payment so that I don’t spend into what I think is extra money lying around, blah, blah, blah). And the still, small voice inside my head says “slow down. Breath. Sit. Still.” And all I can do is reply “fuck you leave me alone so that I can have my panic attack!”

Why is it that at the very moment I need my own, really good advice, I cannot take it, or is it that I don’t WANT to take it, because, god forbid, what if there wasn’t really anything for me to worry about?  What then?  WHAT THE FUCK THEN???

So, I am panicking and really feeling like I need another body to come over and take care of me, and that just isn’t a possibility right now, so I decide to sit down and write about it. And right now, at this moment, with Tommi the cat on my lap, I feel a sense of peace.  And after I finish this writing, im going to serve the Sun his dinner in bed and then draw a bath and read one of my favorite authors, Anne Lamott, and breathe.  

I don’t know what after that. Maybe I can actually sit for a moment and breathe. And touch in.  And locate that still small voice within, and listen.  Or maybe not. Maybe I will decide to eat my feelings or zone out on bad t.v. our just sit in a tight ball on my bed and worry.  But this I know for sure: when I am able to heed my own good advice, it works.  Am I ready for that?

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Well said.
Just try to keep in mind a Lot of people struggle with the very same; that almost "need" to have something to stress about. Need or not at least you're aware. Awareness is an excellent start....

maureen said...

You are a peach, Gar....thank you for that little reminder. xo.